December 16, 2012

His First Trip at 14 Months - What I learnt

 A trip, be it short or long breaks the monotony and adds a flavor to the otherwise bland life. Just as an adult benefits from change so does a child too.

My first trip with my kid was when he was just 14 months old.  Fortunately he had started walking early and was potty trained so no major issues were involved. However, I was a bit reluctant when my husband enthusiastically told me about a family trip their office had arranged.  My enthusiasm was effervescent. This time it was different.We were parents now.

The family thing was not going well with me. After arguments the 'biwi'( wife) of the ' mia, biwi, baccha(please read family) won and I packed my better half's bag the night before 'The Family Trip'. Cleaned Bowled! or so I thought.

October 27, 2012

Alive Or Dead?

Death is when heart stops working. This is when the supply of vital components to the body stops. Likewise a person who has evaded all feelings and emotions is not alive. At least that is how I see it. The day that man on the Bull comes for me I want to be contended from my life.

October 20, 2012

I Hold On...

I need no one like you to be near me;
I know everyone who stands beside is not true.

I may not react to the situations you create.
 I may not answer back to the your spate.
 I know how and why every move you make.
I still stand strong for the one who holds me;
 when I am about to break.

All clear as a crystal;
Coincidences do not occur too often.
Every time you'll try to push me down;
You will see me stand tall without a frown.

I shall hold on for the ones who love me,
Like a phoenix I will rise from the ashes full of grace.
That day the whole world shall see your true face.
Till that day I shall hold on...

October 12, 2012


Faith is you.
Faith is me.
The way we carve our lives together is faith too.

courtesy Google Images

October 5, 2012

The Unexpected Showers

This is Tuesday. Since the last two days 'Indra' The God of Rain' is making his presence felt strongly here.It would start raining unexpectedly. It actually rains 'Cats and Dogs'. The sound is deafening.Still, I give the credit to the rains for making me remember the photograph. I had taken this photograph when the monsoon had just arrived

October 3, 2012




Freedom to rise up and above the rest ;
Not to compete with others,
but to please the self.

Freedom to live;
 not merely exist.

October 1, 2012

Dew Drops in a Concrete Jungle

I woke up a little early today. Somehow the mood was very light. Maybe had a good dream. I do not remember anything. Just feel good today. It takes me some time to get out of my bed. Today was different. I was suddenly pulled towards the window. That shining little pearl drew me to itself

September 28, 2012

I fraandsheep to you pleej ?

I would like to thank the people who send such spam. The very thought provoking mails  and messages motivated me for this post. No matter how bugging these posts may be , but sometime or the other have brought smile on a sad face.

from via google searh

August 29, 2012

Raising a Child Is Not an Easy Task - Grandma Talk

"Raising a child is not an easy task"

So many times we have heard this phrase. I think each generation says it for the next. The task is a tedious one but, not impossible. There are no theories to raise a child; to each his/her own way to tackle the situation.

But there are some things that as an individual I observed affected a parent child's relationship. Here is a list of things which in my opinion lead this situation.

Each parent sees his/herself in the child

Genetically the child is a part of you but, your child is an individual first. Treat your child as you would treat any other individual. Try and understand the signs and symbols your child tries to convey.

Preach what you practice.

Our brain is most active till the age of five. So what you do is what your child learns. A toddler does not relate to what you are speaking but to the tone of your voice and your habits and gestures.
"The baby is much like her mother or father" so many times we have heard or said these words. 'Phenotype and genotype' the child has acquired but acquires the rest of the traits watching the parents or siblings.

Do not compare your child.
No two people in this world are alike. Maybe your child is bad at some things, but good at others. You have not ever bothered to see in which he/she excels.

Give your child the space to grow (I do not mean in terms of area or separate rooms) but, mental space.
Let the child analyze things and you help in channeling the thoughts. Today the child may fall but gradually will learn to stand on his own.

Life cannot be taught; it is an experience.
Let your child decide well from bad, help him in that. Do not teach him what you think is good or bad. That is your opinion and your child may not find reasons to accept it.

Support your child.
Monetarily each person tries their best to give their child a happy life; but are you giving your child the real love and a part of your time

Have faith in your child
There is a thin line between faith and blind faith. Guide your child through the rough patches. Show faith in him; that you know the child will overcome the hard times and come out with bright colors again.

Listen and respond.
Listen what child has to say. Then respond. Just because he is a child, does not imply he is on the wrong side.

Love unconditional
You do not need to prove anything to your child. He will respond according to your behavior. If you are not satisfied with yourself, neither will be the child with you.

Never let insecurity develop.
What you earn is never a concern with your kid as long as you give basic needs. But if you try to go beyond your means to give the luxuries, the child may show reverse signs.
This is because, the strength he sees in you falters. There is an insecurity which the money can never change.

This is not an inclusive list; still it may give an idea about how we go wrong. Respect the people and not the relation. Life will be more beautiful and bright

July 30, 2012

It's Me ! I am what I am

I am what I am,
I can not be, what others expect of me.
I want my freedom, I want my space
I wish to live my life and not merely exist.

June 14, 2012

Relationship status – complicated

Everybody has sometime In their life given a thought to the relationships in their lives. There is a flavor of relationships in our life. Some relations are sweet, others sour; some crumble under the burden of life, others adhere even in the storms and turbulence of life.
courtesy GOOGLE

June 6, 2012

Blogs: Easily Written but Tough to Promote ( II )

This is evident now that mere expertise or skill does not take a person anywhere. One has to market those skills to bring them to the notice of the general public.Once, the word is out the author is the king of his/her domain. Until then, s/he is at the mercy of the profile visitors.

Innocence at Its Best

This short conversation is around 20 years old.  This is something I had published in my school magazine too.

It was during our summer holidays.We (cousins) were playing 'office office'. My 3 year old brother comes for a job vacancy. This is one interview that stopped as soon as it started. The entire family was in splits.

May 31, 2012

भारत  बंद 

आज है भारत बंद ;
फाई थम गयी इस देश की धड़कन 
आम आदमी के नाम पर 
आम आदमी से हे हो रही ये जंग। 

गाड़ियां तोड़ी, बसे जलाई 
काम काज किया सब बंद 
वो भी आम आदमी हे है 
जिसका टैक्स का पैसा 
जलकर हो रहा भसम।
पेट्रोल के दाम बढ़े 
खाने के है लालय पढ़े 
आम आदमी के नाम पर 
रैली में  हैं सब खड़े। 

जी ये वही रैली है 
जिस मैं  डंडे भी आम आदमी को हे पडे। 
डंडे की इस मार से दर्द अब होता नहीं;
महंगाई की मार से ऐसे अब छाले पडे । 

आज फिर भारत बंद है आम आदमी के नाम पर 
सत्ता के लिए वो लड़ पढ़े जिस आदमी के नाम पर 
पैरों में छाले पड़े;
पेट के चूहे मरे ;
कैसी ये जंग है 
आम आदमी के नाम पर।। 

May 24, 2012

Down the Memory Lane...

Yesterday after a nearly futile day, the evening  brought with it some relief. Out of the blue,something struck and I started cleaning my bookshelf. I saw something hidden between the books. The glimpse brought a smile on my face and took me down the memory lane.

May 23, 2012

Short of Words

There is so much happening around me, but I am at a loss of words. I am not receptive these days.I am watching things, listening to people,reading...Still, cannot bring myself to retain them for long. I just hate this phase. It makes life stand still.It is like having an unseen force pulling you back, making each effort worthless.

I tried doing something new,but each hobby I took up did not relieve me of this clutter.Maybe the thoughts have clogged my mind.I need a break, before I break down.I know we should be positive but, sometimes the positive overburdens the brain.

Ah!  just hope I come out of this phase early. I think, I should pursue whatever comes to me rather than what I already know.. Something which does not require brain storming.Yeah, that is better. At least I will not have any preconceived notions about them. These thoughts that come before any task we do(be it for pleasure or work) tend to make situations tough.Let me give it a try. Good luck to me.

May 19, 2012

Addicted:Am I?

I do not know if it happens with everyone or not; but, I am getting addicted. Oh! please do not over work those brain cells. I am getting addicted to writing.Be it the kitchen, room,watching TV etc.; my brain is overworking.Topics and situations eagerly waiting to be penned down; uh ho! typed down. Even when I am not writing any particular post I end up typing few sentences here or there in MS word.

May 14, 2012

Happy Mother's Day: an open letter

Dear mum,

I do not believe that a day is enough to celebrate someone as special as you. Still, I would like to convey something to you.

I may have never said it before, but ma you are special to me. Unknowingly, day by day I am turning into you.This has brought several realizations with it and with each thought you and papa have become more precious to me.

May 8, 2012

Bang on : Aamir khan

The Sunday gone,'SATYAMEV JAYATE'  had its first show.The show format is such that the feelings that arise are somewhat similar to what generate at the time of 'INDEPENDENCE DAY' or the ' REPUBLIC DAY'.

April 27, 2012

From a mom for the mom to be


Welcome to all the lovely ladies who have just entered the new phase or are about to enter motherhood.
I know there is this mixed feeling after the great news is confirmed. So many questions rise in our mind over the next few months. Each month comes with a new set of questions and new dilemmas.

What actually should one do? I do not think anyone will have a perfect answer for this but; this is how my phase went.

When I first had the confirmation about my baby; I was numb, expressionless. The lab lady thought that it was a chance gone wrong and I didn’t want it that way. But Gods bless my baby; it was just that I had no way to express the feeling I was going through. There a saw a sparkle in my husband’s eyes and the happy 9 months began.

Straight from the Lab I went to my office, but the day would just not end and our calls to each other and mails would reassure yes the new chapter had begun.

 So, coming back to the point this is what I tried over the months. This is not an inclusive list or guideline but just what I did. 

  • You are your best judge. Within the given restrictions I ate and drink what my body required.
  • I had small, but several meals a day. Helps in case people have Nausea.
  •  As urination is frequent I had a good fluid intake.
  •  During the first three months precautions are necessary. Anything in excess is bad. That holds true for food, drink, noise, light etc. Your baby is in the cell stage help maintain an environment to help it establish in your womb.
  •  I had increased my diet so that the body gradually got prepared for the coming months. My doc asked me to have high calories in moderation. (Calories add pounds to mom and healthy food to the baby.
  •  I used to walk (had office entire 9 months), but one thing was that the body should not be strained or stressed.
  • Regular checkups were there
  •  One thing I deciphered over the months is that take each day as it comes, when in doubt consult our doc
  • Take good sleep. Afterwards you are probably going to be deprived of it.
  • Talk about your feelings with your spouse and enjoy the journey together.(remember, each journey has its ups and downs)
Enjoy your life and feel proud as this is only because of you that another life is coming to this world. Once the little one comes in your arms you will forget those 9 months no matter how they went and whether you had a c-section or normal.

Its only once we become moms ourselves do we realize our mothers worth.
Three cheers for all the moms!!

Take Care !

April 26, 2012

Blogs: Easily written but Tough to Promote I

 It is good to think and work; but sometimes it is the thinking part that takes the whole good time and leaves with little time for execution. Our ideas may be fantastic but unless put to use they are worthless. Everything in this world has a life and its best time for it the projected before the world.

So many times we have put our efforts into things that end up being futile. Everything seems to be fine, all homework done, best team at work but response is bad. Again either the audience is not ready for your idea or else they have grown above that level.

April 11, 2012

Network Traps

I have been a user of the cell phone since a very long time. Its been years and I have shifted from a simple gadget for just making calls to the upgraded one where net, messages calls, camera, touch and things I have not yet discovered are present.

But one thing for sure has not changed; that is the poor customer relation services of the network provider.Then, this is not restricted to the mobile ,any service regarding these electronics you take and the story is the same.

Few of the favorites of the service provider are:
1) sorry for the inconvenience caused. we regret...

2)Service is temporarily unavailable.Kindly try later...

3)some technical problem in the system...

4) Sir this issue cannot be resolved kindly pay a meager amount and take other STB.

We have the choice to select our provider but I ask when THEY lure the customer its 'CUSTOMER IS KING' but once inside their grip even answering a simple call becomes a burden for them.
And how many times can we change the service provider.

The other day I gave them a call and the response I got made me sick.They ask about the problem and then sit as though their lips have been sealed with a gum. Instead of giving a solution they just keep on repeating the same lines .

Maybe this is how they get their earnings.

From one person they cut around 100 bucks a month.
if  they have around 10000 customers who get affected.
their earnings get near around a whooping 100000 buck

April 10, 2012


Some feelings are beyond words; reunion with friends or a simple conversation with an old pal is one of them. It is refreshing! Old is such a funny word, it brings to our mind something weak, degrading, frail...but when taken with the word, friend it adds a depth to the relationship.

As goes the saying "old wine gets better with age", so does the friendship.

Friends make you see things rationally; they may not speak up right away but will always try to be true to you. They listen to you even when, what you speak makes no sense. You may fight over the silliest of things, however; your fights only make the bond stronger.

This bond is so funny you do not need hours to speak up your mind; the tone of your voice is enough to tell your state. It is only in the friendship that generation gap hold no place as it just about the correct vibes.

They are the secret bearers and the only ones who accepted you for being the ‘unique piece’ you are. At least mine did! They make you feel there are others of your type still existent in this world. Really, friends do make us feel light and good.

I always wondered as to how I would ever know who my friends for life are. I have found my solution; "no matter after how long you meet or chat over the phone; it appears that the last meeting was the day before.”

How do I say so…?

Well, A few weeks back I met an old but young friend of mine after a span of ten years, one hug was enough to sublime the patch of time, and we felt as if our last meeting was just yesterday at the university.

Love you all my friends.

Linking to ABC Wednesday

April 9, 2012

Time management: How was your day?

Somewhere in my heart I knew this phase was going to come. All of us at one time or the other go through this phase; you just don't feel like giving any explanations or reasons and especially putting forth your viewpoint.
No there are no differences of generations,gender or relations,still banging your head against a wall is a strict ,NO. You are aware you will just hurt yourself more. At least for sometime, that is till your heart again comes up to the forefront and your brain lags behind.
Not bad for a starter, who just realized what actually was happening to the mind and soul coordination.
But then Rome was not built in one day.Likewise someday we will also learn to manage our day well.

Love my new profession - Being Mom

It has been a few years now, since I left my job. I have not been idle though. But the roles have changed drastically and also the perspective of people.

A few weeks after I left my job I had my baby. So technically speaking I never have been free.But to the world I appear to be a poor soul,  out of work , unemployed, sitting at home.But believe me, raising a child is no Child's play.I  am not saying this because I am at home but because I have seen both the worlds. Office had been easier, also you get your credit there monetarily and role wise too.

April 5, 2012

Try it yourself

I tried it years before  'Jab We Met ' was released.

Are you feeling low? dejected? blah! blah! blah!  All those things that make you feel like a crap...then vent out your feelings by writing down what and how you are feeling .I have been doing this since my school days.

By writing I do not mean complete sentences but words , zig zags, doodles , scribbles ...whatever comes to your mind...just put in down on paper. Mind you paper can be an old newspaper,tissue,whatever...
Now that you are done shred the paper into dozens of pieces......Aah relief....

Once you are through this step you can jot your feelings easily at the next level. that is through net....via blogs or the notes page in your mail.

Try it and do tell how it felt.

April 2, 2012

An uphill task: loosing weight

I am not here to write about the diet programs that could help loose weight. But wait, there is something that you should try before any weight loss program; whether going on a diet or dieting.

Never starve yourself. If God had proposed it to be that way, hunger would not exist.

1 )   The biggest reason why you are not losing weight is because you have this fear inside you that “what if I never lose weight?’ Ahh! My dear friend this is the biggest hindrance in your weight loss program.

  Scare away your fears. Affirm and say to yourself everyday maybe it may take days, weeks or months but you will lose weight.

2)  Next, don’t let those temptations get you.  When that favorite dish of yours looks pleading at you to just take a nibble or when that aroma takes you to a new world don’t get fooled.

2    Just stare at it and casually affirm and say I will eat that entire plate but not today. Sometimes it is the distances that get us together and it holds true for all the love in the nature.

3 )  Hunger cannot be beaten by staying hungry.  Food is not the culprit that added those pounds to you. But your mismanagement did.

    Eat your meals but just break them up into several meals a day. A word of CAUTION:  do not increase the quantity of food Intake.

4)Sometimes you are just not hungry. But an urge to have something is there. This is Pseudo-hunger. The fluid level in your body is low.

 Take a cue first have a glass or two of water. You may not go for that bite.  Caution: Do not gorge on the water

 5)Do not let your body bloat up. Sometimes there is water retention and we appear on the heavier side.  Food has got nothing to do with it.

 Have enough fluid throughout the day.

6)Maintain what you have lost. Just because the rate of losing weight is slow does not mean that, the weight loss program has flopped and you have a reason to eat.

Try and maintain the weight and after sometime start afresh on your regime.

7) When we have nothing to do, when we are in a mood to celebrate, or when we are in a bad mood, our focus tends to be on food. As it’s the easiest available diversion of our thoughts.

Also always remember to engage yourself in some activity or the other.

Enjoy the small happy moments in your life. Live your life and do not mere exist. Love yourself. Rest will follow.

March 14, 2012

Lessons From Life: Point Taken

 Myself before You: holds true but tough to practice !

Don't self pity.Wait, breathe and check what is wrong. Nothing is achieved by brooding over things that are nothing but the past.It is good to be respectful and sober but don't let people walk over you. 

Out of courtesy we speak what others want to hear…..that is the way we are taught about the world by our parents.But then why blame them? Once on our own we need to manipulate things according to the requirement. 

People are out there to show off themselves to the world. Except a few all others have masks on their faces. It is quite tough to know the real, all this even makes you think if you are true.One thing I have learnt is that people see what they want to see not what you are. Perceptions are generalized. People don’t want to see the real you but who they perceive you are.

As always our problem lies with the fact that we try and mould ourselves as to what others want from us…. maybe that is why people think we are what they had thought about us. May be we should think in terms of 'ME' before others or else have the motto, “let others do what they want, and do my best from my side”

 Thanks to for the picture

Sometimes you want something and ask for it but don't get it; but it takes years(exaggerated expression  though ;) ) for  the people  to realize that you had asked for something….result you do not ask for anything next time.(But you are plain happy) But then, these very same people question  “ oh!  what do you want?; there must be something…"  ahoy!! again your expectation rises and the vicious circle goes on …… Better option still; stop asking for what you want just go for it yourself. So you do not go thru the  same cycle again.Life is lovely.

If u try and please others out of respect and stretch yourself, they expect the same every time…..but then the amount stretched is beyond your limit…after that limit you will only break away into pieces. If you start showing resistance later they may become suspicious if you are acting!!!!!! Better to be tough fro the word GO.

Still tougher is when you are asked for clarification on the face.(what happened ? say something...) A honey talk; ugh!!! …Life is not simple; or maybe life is simple but people around us have the way to walk across in criss cross even wen a direct route is there.

Good that man found writing, helps ease out the soul.
God bless the paper and the pen….um-mm!!! MS word J

February 29, 2012

Internet : bringing us together

Thank you God for the Internet!

This is straight from my heart, I really want to thank the brain behind the 'concept of bringing the world close to us' the  inventor of 'THE NET '.

Starting a new journey

I do not know what I intend to do with this blog. Till I get the grasp of the things I plan to write down whatever comes to my mind.

Thoughts come easily to me, but putting down those thoughts on paper is going to be one big task. How to phrase my thoughts so that what I feel and what I put down  do not end up being east and west.

Time only will tell where this blog shall move. Also, how long it would survive.

Lets keep the spirits high and proceed with this new adventure.

January 10, 2012


If life is a catalyst, this weblog is the reaction. Consequently, there is reasoning, realization, regret.

- Ira PT
(nom de plume)

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